Dear Miss Anthony,
This letter is being written on an assumption that perhaps you truly were a victim of molestation as a little girl. Your defense is based upon that purported molestation and, that because of such victimization, you went into a mode of self-protection cloaked in pathological lying. I can comprehend how that would come to be. You see, even after all these years since I disclosed my own victimization, there are still those who either choose not to believe me or simply look the other way, blissfully denying the truth at hand. Yes, I was molested. . . for a period of years. Yes, it affected much of my adult life, and most certainly had an impact on me as a wife and a mother. I made some poor choices, such as marrying an abusive alcoholic, which led to years of domestic violence before obtaining a divorce. My children were impacted by those years, as well. I made my share of screw-ups as a mom, Casey. But for the life of me, I just don’t get it. How could you allow your baby to come up missing for even more than an hour and not frantically begin searching, gathering every living human being within the range of your voice (or phone) to come and help you find her?
Casey, there is a possibility that you were indeed molested as a child, and if that did in fact happen, I am so very sorry for your victimization and abuse. No child should ever have to endure being sexually assaulted or abused, and quite frankly, in my honest opinion, there is absolutely no acceptable justification for such actions. If your claim is true, then I know the fear you battled for so very long, doing all you could to hide the abomination that was perpetrated upon you. I know the dilemma of a young little mind trying to stay one step or thought ahead of his/her abuser. But, Miss Anthony, for those of us who were in fact sexually abused as children, let me point this out to you:
A great percentage of victims of sexual assault and/or molestation are scarred for life. Yes, that is a fact. We will experience triggers and revictimization probably until we draw our last breath. But, dear Casey, we have not been inclined to use our abuse as justification to diminish our character or integrity, making it okay to become pathological liars. We have not used the abhorrent behavior we endured to excuse poor parenting, and most surely we have not let it take us to the point we went out to party while our precious baby had been missing for even more than a few hours, much less an entire month.
So, in closing, Miss Anthony, if indeed you are a victim of child sexual molestation, I extend my condolences for the wrongs perpetrated upon you. But please, out of respect for those of us others who live each and every day as a survivor and overcomer, making the best of life without allowing the molestation to rule over us any longer, please do not think this is an acceptable form of defense. Rather, I, as a former victim, take it as an offense.
Carolyn S. Hennecy
- Lying Is Part of the Fascination of the Casey Anthony Trial (psychologytoday.com)