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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—From “Beautiful” to Abused


Looking back, I realize I was starving for some positive attention. So, when this guy who I had never seen before crashed my party and began telling me how beautiful I was and how much he wanted to take me on a date, I was flattered. You see, at best I saw myself as average. … Continue reading

IS VERBAL ABUSE A FORM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?


As surely as a trip starts with the first mile, or an omelet begins with breaking one egg, domestic violence starts with one word or sentence. The first occasion may consist of being told, “Shut up!” Perhaps it will soon be followed with, “Nobody wants to hear what you have to say.” The confrontations have … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—BUT A WIFE IS TO SUBMIT, RIGHT?


Taking on the meaning of scriptures and their translation can be a sticky mess at times.  Many versions of the often quoted Ephesians 5:22 tell us, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your husbands as unto the Lord.” Okay, so maybe Paul was using submit as one form of the verb, but we have carried it all … Continue reading

WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT SPOUSE ABUSE AND DIVORCE?


Countless numbers pose the question: What does the Bible say about spouse abuse? The first scripture religion likes to jump on is found in the book of Malachi, “God hates divorce” (2:16). What is usually overlooked, though, in that scripture, is his admonishment that man is not to deal treacherously with his wife. A translation … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND THE FAMILY PET


I didn’t get it when I was enduring many years of verbal and emotional abuse that whenever the threat was made to kill or harm our dog, it was a predictable red flag that domestic violence was present and at work in my life. It was also one of the primary reasons I chose to … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RATES INCREASE—IS CONGRESS PARTIALLY RESPONSIBLE?


Let’s get the disclaimer out of the way: This is an editorial and the statements contained herein are pretty much the opinion of the writer, unless the shoe fits, then perhaps the responsible party should wear it. There. Now, let’s get down to business. Today I read a report that there has been a 65% … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SURVIVOR: YOU’RE HERE NOW BECAUSE YOU WERE THERE THEN (Making the Past a Positive)


How many times do victims of domestic violence ask themselves, “How do I get out of here?” When we become survivors, the question then becomes, “How did I get there in the first place?” After all, it makes no sense that anyone would actually set out to become the battered half of an abusive relationship, … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—When it’s Time to Think About Leaving


Many are confronted constantly by “subtle” signs of abuse that quickly and easily lead to domestic violence. It may be time to start thinking about leaving if you find yourself saying or thinking the following about your spouse/intimate partner: He/she… Displays extreme (or even moderate) jealousy Swipes the air in front of my face, hits … Continue reading

A Survivor of Domestic Violence Looks Back—But He Told Me He Loved Me


I was young, naïve, gullible and needy. I wanted someone to love me. I had been sexually abused as a child, and considered myself damaged goods. Barely 18, I walked down the aisle of the church to marry someone because he told me he loved me, and that nobody else would want me. It was … Continue reading

Emotional Abuse and Domestic Violence – Partners in Crime


Emotional wellbeing? Emotional health? Just what are they and how do victims of domestic violence reach them? How do we attempt to make some sense of senseless acts in life—molestation, spousal abuse, habitual rejection, poor choices in relationships… The list may seem extensive, but if you will stick with me, I think the result will … Continue reading

9/11—REMEMBERING WHAT WE LOST, AND SEEING WHAT WE GAINED


9/11─The day that changed America forever. A new generation now exists that will never know the America that was not on constant alert for terrorist strikes or other dangers of attack. They will probably live their entire life being driven with a continual element of fear. Many would say this was the day America lost … Continue reading

VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—You are More Than a Statistic


* Statistics tell us: One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime. An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year. 85% of domestic violence victims are women. Historically, females have been most often victimized by someone they knew. Females who are 20-24 years … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—The Statistics Are Appalling


Think you are not affected by domestic violence? No assault or battery going on in your home? Read on and then tell me if you still think you are not impacted by domestic/intimate partner violence. Statistic: In 70-80% of intimate partner homicides, no matter which partner was killed, the man physically abused the woman before … Continue reading

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HOPE AND HELP FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIMS


Within the past week one of the top local news stories in our area has been the trial of a man who is charged with murdering his girlfriend by hacking her to death with a machete because “she disrespected me.” How aware are you of the levels of domestic violence in this nation? It has … Continue reading

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