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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—How Did I Get Into Another Abusive Relationship?—Part 1


There it was—a picture of my Daddy walking me down the aisle to be married. It startled me to finally notice, after all those years, the look on both our faces. There was no happiness or joy on our faces. We appeared as two serious generations who seemed to be walking to a gallows rather … Continue reading

When Others Try to Control Us


It’s amazing the power one person can have over another, and how they can exercise certain levels of control over another’s emotional wellbeing. Emotions can be wrecked and hearts can be broken so easily. Over the past few weeks I have had conversations with various people who shared their observations of the inhumanity of mankind … Continue reading

LIVING NEXT DOOR TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?


The Florida Attorney General’s Statewide Domestic Violence Fatality Review Team, in their report issued January 2011 found that “in 37% of domestic violence fatalities, family members, friends, co-workers and others were aware domestic violence was occurring.” In simpler terms, for every 3 women, men or children who die as the result of domestic violence, one … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – PARENTS AND CHILDREN ABUSING EACH OTHER


The majority of time, society considers domestic violence as a spouse abusing a spouse, or intimate partner abuse. How often do we hear or read reports of parents abusing their own children? We hear of babies being brutally beaten just to make them stop crying. A book that was published several years ago brought the … Continue reading

VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: IT’S YOUR LIFE – IT’S YOUR CHOICE


At some time or another every victim of spouse abuse or domestic/intimate partner violence will be asked, “Why don’t you just leave?” We have a list as long as our arm as to why we stay, no matter how deeply we desire to get out of the situation. WE know why we choose to stay, … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—WHEN BOTH PARTIES ARE ABUSERS


Have you ever known of a married couple who “just couldn’t get along?” They snipped and snapped, even in public, with no respect or regard for the other? It almost seemed as if they were egging the other on to take the first swing. Now, that is most certainly dysfunctional, but it is what I … Continue reading

WHAT BRINGS ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?


For far too long we have considered domestic violence as an anger management issue. Someone loses their temper and flies off the handle. That is only the tip of the iceberg. The driving force behind domestic/intimate partner violence is the fear of losing power and/or control over the victim. It is rare that domestic violence … Continue reading

IT COULD BE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IF . . .


  The perpetrator is abusing drugs or alcohol, and especially if it is escalating. There is a threat of taking the children away from you, and proving you an unfit mother. The family pet is being abused, or there are threats of it happening. You find yourself being verbally belittled, emotionally abused or ordered around … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SURVIVOR: YOU’RE HERE NOW BECAUSE YOU WERE THERE THEN (Making the Past a Positive)


How many times do victims of domestic violence ask themselves, “How do I get out of here?” When we become survivors, the question then becomes, “How did I get there in the first place?” After all, it makes no sense that anyone would actually set out to become the battered half of an abusive relationship, … Continue reading

Emotional Abuse and Domestic Violence – Partners in Crime


Emotional wellbeing? Emotional health? Just what are they and how do victims of domestic violence reach them? How do we attempt to make some sense of senseless acts in life—molestation, spousal abuse, habitual rejection, poor choices in relationships… The list may seem extensive, but if you will stick with me, I think the result will … Continue reading

Domestic Violence vs. God—Do We Have Spiritual Questions?


It is quickly apparent from recent search terms leading to my blog there are countless victims of domestic violence who are wrestling with their spirituality as it relates to the abuse they are enduring. Stay or leave? Guilty or not? Being punished by God? What about the children? The words “guilt” and “punish” are used … Continue reading

The Bible Says I Must Forgive—What About Forgetting?


Forgiving – a divine intervention? The first Bible verse I ever learned was, “Love one another.” Then, the Lord’s Prayer—”Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” I got older and found in red letters, “To be forgiven, you must first forgive, for as you forgive, in like manner you will … Continue reading

How Long Does Domestic Violence Last?


There are only three ways that I am aware domestic violence can end. They are:  1)  The victim separates him/herself from the abuser. 2)  The abuser is rehabilitated and changes his/her ways. 3)  The victim dies.  I know, it’s brutal, but it’s true. In my personal opinion, if the abuser is willing to seek counseling … Continue reading

Be Aware When an Abusive Partner Apologizes


Right up front, let’s establish that I have a long-running reputation as “Merry Sunshine” with a pair of rose-colored glasses permanently affixed to my face. So, if you read this article and feel I whizzed in your corn flakes, please bear in mind it’s a lot like broccoli. You may not like it, but it … Continue reading

Society’s View on Victims of Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence


How far have we come? I recently read an article stating a television personality “got what she deserved” when she was gang-raped. Another tweeted ridiculous comments, begrudgingly eventually apologizing – sort of. Can we say “Neanderthal?” First, it should be brought to that commentator’s attention rape is not a crime driven by lust or horniness. … Continue reading

The Lesson of the Oak Tree―Growing in the Midst of Abuse


Recently I was taken back to the house where I lived while enduring years of spousal abuse. It’s curious how some things that mean very little to others rivet our own attention. There in the front yard stood a stately, huge oak tree. I was amazed. I kept repeating to the reporter who was interviewing … Continue reading

WHAT CAN WE LEARN FROM JAYCEE?


“Silence is golden.” It was almost a mantra for decades, if not centuries. There was even a top recording released in the 60s by that title, “Silence is golden, but my eyes still see.” As Diane Sawyer was closing the national news recently after another look at her interview with Jaycee Dugard, her final remarks … Continue reading

Casey & George Anthony—On Behalf of Victims of Molestation


Throughout the Casey Anthony trial I strongly held the position being molested as a child is not an acceptable defense for murder. I did not take that position to help persecute or prosecute Casey. I heard from many other molestation victims who were just as offended as I had been at the use of that … Continue reading

Casey Anthony vs. Nancy Grace?


And the winner is — neither! While my intent is not to take a stand here for or against Casey Anthony, or expound on all the reasons I feel she might have been found guilty as charged, I am compelled to address the “coverage” given this case by Ms. Grace. It is apparent that Nancy … Continue reading

Casey Anthony – What Part Did Media Play?


I could take a cheap shot and say that in this circus the media played the part of the clowns, but I won’t… well, I guess I just did. Don’t misunderstand me. That is a very general statement, and there were many who covered it with the level of decorum and professionalism we should expect … Continue reading

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