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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS

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Who Helps the Advocate When the Advocate Needs Help?


Have you ever stopped to wonder who is there to minister to the clergy when they need ministry? I mean, we all need emotional and spiritual support at some time or another, but if they are constantly giving out and never getting anything back, that cannot be a good thing. The same thing goes for … Continue reading

Reporting Abuse under Threat of Death – The Ultimate Dilemma


In a very few months I have seen two news stories involving battered women who refused to press charges or give a statement against their abuser. Both incidents ended with the report of at least one death. In both circumstances, the law enforcement officer asking the victim if she cared to file a report or … Continue reading

Men Who are Victims of Abuse


Yes, it happens. Not very often, but it does happen. Men are sometimes the victim of domestic violence and abuse. Men get it coming and going. Society labels them as wimps if they “allow” their wives to run over them, yet they are admonished that a man should never hit a woman. So, what if … Continue reading

No! God is Not Punishing You with Domestic Violence!


On a consistent basis I get the same question: “Is God punishing me with domestic violence?”  Let me say this as clearly as I possibly can. No! I stand on this statement unequivocally, and am firmly convinced it is scriptural. God punishes sinners. Domestic violence is a sin. You are the victim, not the sinner. … Continue reading

How Do I Know if I am a Victim of Domestic Violence?


It is puzzling for me, standing on this side of the fence now, to consider how often women question whether or not they are experiencing domestic violence. The far too common thought is, “Well, I must not be a victim of domestic violence. He has never hit me.” Okay, would it make sense if we … Continue reading

Reading Between the Lines – What are Victims of Abuse Looking For?


I suppose it could be considered humorous that the top search engine term on my blog site is “pastor cartoon.” I still have not figured that one out for the life of me. But then it gets serious. Scores of terms people are using, whether through Google, Bing or any other search engine, include such … Continue reading

Domestic Violence – How Do We Offer Spiritual Support?


Domestic violence is no respecter of person or religion. You see, when it comes to abuse, it happens every day in the Jewish, Muslim, Christian, Catholic or Hindu home. It also occurs daily in the homes of agnostics and atheists. I suppose you could say domestic/intimate partner violence is an interfaith issue. So, what do … Continue reading

Domestic Violence – Leaving is the Victim’s Choice


If you are a victim of domestic/intimate partner violence, do not take this as encouragement to stay in an abusive relationship. While also for victims, this post is especially aimed at all the family members, friends and coworkers of victims of abuse. I hope victims and those who interact with victims will post a comment … Continue reading

The Church’s Role in Domestic Violence


We have reached a crisis level in the work to combat domestic violence in our nation today. If it is going to be controlled, even to a minimal extent, we must all be more cognizant, educated and knowledgeable about the face of domestic violence. One out of every three women in the USA will, at … Continue reading

Learning From Disappointments – Self Care: Another Life Lesson


This has been a couple of weeks of major disappointments and lessons learned. I have a whole new appreciation for “self care” now, having been given an excellent opportunity to personally choose it or not. An emergency admission to the critical care unit to rule out heart attack or stroke was not the greatest way … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—THE DANGER OF TRYING TO LEAVE


    How many women who tried to break out of an abusive relationship are lying in our cemeteries today? The danger associated with attempting to escape domestic violence is somber. A victim of domestic/intimate partner violence is at the greatest point of danger when she tries to leave. Yet, still today, victims and survivors, … Continue reading

WOMEN WHO ABUSE MEN


Yes, I have finally decided to take on this topic. You can’t imagine the flack received by activists and advocates of domestic violence awareness, accusations of hating men or the posts on the internet skewing numbers as to the proportion of women versus men who are abused. Well, I’m sticking with the statistic that seems … Continue reading

HAS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ROBBED YOU OF YOUR DREAMS?


Remember when you were a little girl, dreaming of growing up to become a princess who lived in a beautiful castle? There were the ball gowns, the diamond tiaras, the knights in shining armor… Or, perhaps your dreams took you on tours as the world’s most in-demand entertainer, standing on a stage before throngs of … Continue reading

FEELING HOPELESS AS A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE


The deeper a victim falls into the pit of domestic violence, the greater the battle against hopelessness becomes. You do not feel free to discuss it, for that most assuredly holds repercussions of increased abuse, whether emotional, verbal or physical. Further down into hopelessness you sink, feeling all alone in your vicious cycle. Sometimes I … Continue reading

HIDING EVIDENCE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE


WHY do victims find it necessary to cover up or make allowances for the actions of their abusers—excuses for treatment they do not deserve?   A victim rarely speaks out immediately upon their first incident of domestic/intimate partner violence. That is probably because it innocuously worked its way to such a level, with intimidating words, … Continue reading

USE THE VICTIM SUPPORT PAGE


Many of you are now regular visitors here at my blog, and for that, I am grateful. It means somebody is truly interested in learning more about domestic violence—or that they need to know more about it, because they are in it. There is a lot of valuable information on the Victim Support Page of … Continue reading

When I Chose to Speak Out-Revisiting the Book


I have begun working on a second book, one providing not only answers from my own life to victims and survivors of sexual and domestic violence, but also to bring in major players in the advocacy work against domestic and sexual assault awareness as contributors. It seemed sensible to revisit one of my more successful … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – APPLY WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED


When it comes to domestic/intimate partner violence, spouse abuse or rape crisis intervention, there seem to be enough existing articles and theses written to paper the Grand Canyon. The information available is limitless. Not every piece substantiates others. As if that were not enough to bring confusion to us, the numbers are constantly changing. When … Continue reading

Domestic Violence—Just Pray Through?


  Faith is a powerful thing. It can resurrect the most dead of relationships. It can resurrect trust that has been totally annihilated. We pray in faith, believing, or else why would we pray at all? I would never intend to minimize the power of prayer or the importance of a spiritual way of life. … Continue reading

SPOUSE ABUSE—”BUT I SAID I WAS SORRY!”


  During a recent conversation about dealing with certain aspects of domestic violence, I was asked, “What do you do when the abuser says, ‘But, I told her I was sorry. She has to forgive me, it’s in the Bible’?” There was the whole concept of apology versus restitution, i.e. restoration or reinstatement. Words. They … Continue reading

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