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WHY IS IT DIFFICULT TO IDENTIFY VICTIMS OF ABUSE?


Whether it is victimization by sexual abuse or domestic violence, it’s not always easy to pick out the victims. My book, Orange Blossom Wishes, was released in 2008. Since that time I am still asked on a consistent basis by many who knew me, some very close friends, “How did we not know? How did … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—Developing a Safety Plan 101


Simplification is usually the best way to go. So, you are not contemplating leaving just yet, but you are consistently in fear, being verbally abused and beginning to think this is not the way you want the rest of your life to go. You have options and alternatives. For those who read this blog regularly, … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: HOW DO I AVOID AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?


BECOME THE KIND OF PERSON YOU WANT TO ATTRACT! I used to repeat this phrase over and over again to the group I led as a Director of Singles Ministry—Be the kind of person you want to attract. You will attract the kind of person you ARE, not the kind of person you desire. I … Continue reading

Domestic Violence Awareness Month – Carolyn speaks


I had the privilege of being interviewed by Gayle Guyardo of the Tampa NBC affiliate, WFLA, on the Channel 8 News Today morning show. We addressed my own personal story, in recognition of National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please take 6 minutes to view the spot. It has some valuable information regarding domestic violence. To … Continue reading

Emotional Abuse and Domestic Violence – Partners in Crime


Emotional wellbeing? Emotional health? Just what are they and how do victims of domestic violence reach them? How do we attempt to make some sense of senseless acts in life—molestation, spousal abuse, habitual rejection, poor choices in relationships… The list may seem extensive, but if you will stick with me, I think the result will … Continue reading

The Bible Says I Must Forgive—What About Forgetting?


Forgiving – a divine intervention? The first Bible verse I ever learned was, “Love one another.” Then, the Lord’s Prayer—”Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” I got older and found in red letters, “To be forgiven, you must first forgive, for as you forgive, in like manner you will … Continue reading

How Long Does Domestic Violence Last?


There are only three ways that I am aware domestic violence can end. They are:  1)  The victim separates him/herself from the abuser. 2)  The abuser is rehabilitated and changes his/her ways. 3)  The victim dies.  I know, it’s brutal, but it’s true. In my personal opinion, if the abuser is willing to seek counseling … Continue reading

Be Aware When an Abusive Partner Apologizes


Right up front, let’s establish that I have a long-running reputation as “Merry Sunshine” with a pair of rose-colored glasses permanently affixed to my face. So, if you read this article and feel I whizzed in your corn flakes, please bear in mind it’s a lot like broccoli. You may not like it, but it … Continue reading

Watch for Tomorrow’s Post


Carolyn, the author I am so pleased with the blog post that is to appear here tomorrow, I just want to encourage everyone to be sure to check it out. Remember, July 30, 2011. Eager to get feedback from any and all of you!

Society’s View on Victims of Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence


How far have we come? I recently read an article stating a television personality “got what she deserved” when she was gang-raped. Another tweeted ridiculous comments, begrudgingly eventually apologizing – sort of. Can we say “Neanderthal?” First, it should be brought to that commentator’s attention rape is not a crime driven by lust or horniness. … Continue reading

Casey & George Anthony—On Behalf of Victims of Molestation


Throughout the Casey Anthony trial I strongly held the position being molested as a child is not an acceptable defense for murder. I did not take that position to help persecute or prosecute Casey. I heard from many other molestation victims who were just as offended as I had been at the use of that … Continue reading

Casey Anthony – Guilty, Even Though Acquitted?


 “Not guilty” does not mean “not innocent.” Casey Anthony is guilty of much. She is, without a doubt, guilty of not reporting her child missing for 31 days.  Her attorney admitted that. He also suggested she might be considered a “slut.” In reading the various comments posted not only on my blog, but all over … Continue reading

Casey Anthony – The Cast of Players─SOMEBODY HAS TO BE GUILTY.


 This trial is becoming more and more amazing as each day passes. I find it absolutely amazing that the poll included on a post during the prosecution’s presentation had 97% of those voting Casey was guilty. Now that the defense has taken their turn, it is currently down to 77%, give or take. The following … Continue reading

Dealing with the Guilt of Leaving an Abusive Relationship


GUILT—What a powerful weapon when used against a victim of spouse abuse or domestic violence. It can be wielded in so many different directions. The victim must deal with the guilt of breaking up a marriage or intimate relationship, quite possibly separating a family. Children will lose time with their father. Their lifestyle will most … Continue reading

Emotional Abuse and Your Faith


As a woman of faith, and seeing so many search engine terms coming up on my blog looking for answers as to how faith and abuse possibly fit together, I simply must make some meager attempt to address this point. I was raised in the 60s, and through that time society taught the religious tenets … Continue reading

Singles and Online Dating – Are You Ready for a Surprise?


Let me get this straight. I am in the middle of dinner with a widower whose deceased wife is in a locker in the basement of the hospital, and he just invited me to be his date to her funeral? This had to be a joke. I was being punked, right? Continue reading

Domestic Violence – In the Beginning: Emotional Abuse


No matter your age, as you read this blog, should you relate to any portion of it, we have something in common and are kindred spirits in a strange sort of way. The years of silence were unbearable. While keeping my mouth shut as a victim of molestation and abuse, the inner screaming was deafening—a … Continue reading

Thanking the Ones Who Helped Get Me Here…


Since my book, ORANGE BLOSSOM WISHES: Child Molested, Woman Abused – Her Victorious Journey to Freedom was released in 2008, wonder upon wonder, opportunity upon opportunity and blessing upon blessing have taken place. None of these could have transpired without the encouragement, support and work on the part of others to help make the things … Continue reading

Casey Anthony—What if She is Telling the Truth?


 Be sure to take the poll at the end of this post. This murder trial of Casey Anthony has become quite a convoluted mess, at the very least. I tend to be known for turning the prism around and trying to see every facet I can, so here I go. Some would say I’m playing … Continue reading

CAUTION! Domestic Violence: You Have Moved On – But Has He?


I applaud all women who have managed to find their way safely and sanely out of a relationship that involved domestic/intimate partner violence and moved on. BUT─Take note, and take caution. Just because you have moved on does not mean your former partner has. The average abusive partner will continue to stalk their victim for … Continue reading

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