//
archives

Psychological abuse

This tag is associated with 37 posts

WHAT ARE SIGNS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?


Let’s start with the not so obvious issue of those women who come to me and say, “How do I know if I am a victim of domestic violence?” Yes, there are those out there who are uncertain of the fact if they are or are not a victim of domestic violence. To those I … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE ARE PROGRESSIVE


It is not uncommon to hear a victim of verbal or emotional abuse say, “Well, it’s not domestic violence. He’s never hit me.” Really? Do you think demeaning or threatening words don’t cause damage, too? There were many times I stood listening to the words spewing from his mouth, telling me how useless, stupid, fat … Continue reading

When Others Try to Control Us


It’s amazing the power one person can have over another, and how they can exercise certain levels of control over another’s emotional wellbeing. Emotions can be wrecked and hearts can be broken so easily. Over the past few weeks I have had conversations with various people who shared their observations of the inhumanity of mankind … Continue reading

IT COULD BE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IF . . .


  The perpetrator is abusing drugs or alcohol, and especially if it is escalating. There is a threat of taking the children away from you, and proving you an unfit mother. The family pet is being abused, or there are threats of it happening. You find yourself being verbally belittled, emotionally abused or ordered around … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND THE FAMILY PET


I didn’t get it when I was enduring many years of verbal and emotional abuse that whenever the threat was made to kill or harm our dog, it was a predictable red flag that domestic violence was present and at work in my life. It was also one of the primary reasons I chose to … Continue reading

A Survivor of Domestic Violence Looks Back—But He Told Me He Loved Me


I was young, naïve, gullible and needy. I wanted someone to love me. I had been sexually abused as a child, and considered myself damaged goods. Barely 18, I walked down the aisle of the church to marry someone because he told me he loved me, and that nobody else would want me. It was … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – Where Does it Begin?


Many of us victims, former victims, struggling survivors and overcomers have at some time asked ourselves, “How did the domestic violence begin?”  I figure there are no statistics to back this up, but feel it is a dependable observation: Domestic violence, as well as spouse/intimate partner abuse starts with a word. That’s right, one word, … Continue reading

Society’s View on Victims of Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence


How far have we come? I recently read an article stating a television personality “got what she deserved” when she was gang-raped. Another tweeted ridiculous comments, begrudgingly eventually apologizing – sort of. Can we say “Neanderthal?” First, it should be brought to that commentator’s attention rape is not a crime driven by lust or horniness. … Continue reading

Presence of the Past – A Challenge for Survivors of Abuse


We have heard it so many times―You just have to get over the past. It’s an easy enough statement to make, but not so simple to do. For years I have stated, and even included in my book the admonition, “The past is for learning from, not living in.” But the truth is, the very … Continue reading

The Lesson of the Oak Tree―Growing in the Midst of Abuse


Recently I was taken back to the house where I lived while enduring years of spousal abuse. It’s curious how some things that mean very little to others rivet our own attention. There in the front yard stood a stately, huge oak tree. I was amazed. I kept repeating to the reporter who was interviewing … Continue reading

WHAT CAN WE LEARN FROM JAYCEE?


“Silence is golden.” It was almost a mantra for decades, if not centuries. There was even a top recording released in the 60s by that title, “Silence is golden, but my eyes still see.” As Diane Sawyer was closing the national news recently after another look at her interview with Jaycee Dugard, her final remarks … Continue reading

The Trial is Over—Can We Get Back to Helping Victims?


I am absolutely astonished at the number of hits on my blog driven by search terms regarding Casey Anthony. It has been mind-boggling. I jumped aboard that train and rode it because of the accusations of molestation, domestic violence/abuse and well, like everyone else, just trying to get some answers and make some sense of … Continue reading

Emotional Abuse and Your Faith


As a woman of faith, and seeing so many search engine terms coming up on my blog looking for answers as to how faith and abuse possibly fit together, I simply must make some meager attempt to address this point. I was raised in the 60s, and through that time society taught the religious tenets … Continue reading

Finally! Men Are Speaking Out About Being Molested


When it’s time to revisit some issues, I am convinced one must simply face the facts that perhaps some things have changed, and it’s time to turn the prism to see another facet. Now is one of those times. We have always known there are hidden masses of adults who were victims of sexual molestation … Continue reading

An Open Letter to Casey Anthony – From a Victim of Molestation


Dear Miss Anthony, This letter is being written on an assumption that perhaps you truly were a victim of molestation as a little girl. Your defense is based upon that purported molestation and, that because of such victimization, you went into a mode of self-protection cloaked in pathological lying.  I can comprehend how that would … Continue reading

Domestic Violence – In the Beginning: Emotional Abuse


No matter your age, as you read this blog, should you relate to any portion of it, we have something in common and are kindred spirits in a strange sort of way. The years of silence were unbearable. While keeping my mouth shut as a victim of molestation and abuse, the inner screaming was deafening—a … Continue reading

How Does Casey Anthony’s Defense Strategy Relate to Victims of Molestation?


The more this case goes on, the more it seems to be a pie of several sorts. You cut into one piece to find cherry, yet the next may be peach or even chocolate cream. How is that possible? She professes to have been sexually molested by her father and her brother, yet another part … Continue reading

Casey Anthony—What if She is Telling the Truth?


 Be sure to take the poll at the end of this post. This murder trial of Casey Anthony has become quite a convoluted mess, at the very least. I tend to be known for turning the prism around and trying to see every facet I can, so here I go. Some would say I’m playing … Continue reading

CAUTION! Domestic Violence: You Have Moved On – But Has He?


I applaud all women who have managed to find their way safely and sanely out of a relationship that involved domestic/intimate partner violence and moved on. BUT─Take note, and take caution. Just because you have moved on does not mean your former partner has. The average abusive partner will continue to stalk their victim for … Continue reading

Men Who are Victims of Abuse


Yes, it happens. Not very often, but it does happen. Men are sometimes the victim of domestic violence and abuse. Men get it coming and going. Society labels them as wimps if they “allow” their wives to run over them, yet they are admonished that a man should never hit a woman. So, what if … Continue reading

CALENDAR-Browse the archives

February 2020
S M T W T F S
« Jan    
 1
2345678
9101112131415
16171819202122
23242526272829

View Carolyn’s story on ABC

Click here to view Carolyn's story on ABC

Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 37 other followers