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How Do I Know if I am a Victim of Domestic Violence?


It is puzzling for me, standing on this side of the fence now, to consider how often women question whether or not they are experiencing domestic violence. The far too common thought is, “Well, I must not be a victim of domestic violence. He has never hit me.” Okay, would it make sense if we … Continue reading

What are Some Signs of Child Molestation?


Several have been asking me what some of the signs of child molestation are. My first suggestion is to go directly to the RAINN website―do not stop, do not pass “Go,” do not hesitate, but go there, read their information and if you feel it is necessary, call them. They are the experts. Another important … Continue reading

Domestic Violence – How Do We Offer Spiritual Support?


Domestic violence is no respecter of person or religion. You see, when it comes to abuse, it happens every day in the Jewish, Muslim, Christian, Catholic or Hindu home. It also occurs daily in the homes of agnostics and atheists. I suppose you could say domestic/intimate partner violence is an interfaith issue. So, what do … Continue reading

WOMEN WHO ABUSE MEN


Yes, I have finally decided to take on this topic. You can’t imagine the flack received by activists and advocates of domestic violence awareness, accusations of hating men or the posts on the internet skewing numbers as to the proportion of women versus men who are abused. Well, I’m sticking with the statistic that seems … Continue reading

HAS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ROBBED YOU OF YOUR DREAMS?


Remember when you were a little girl, dreaming of growing up to become a princess who lived in a beautiful castle? There were the ball gowns, the diamond tiaras, the knights in shining armor… Or, perhaps your dreams took you on tours as the world’s most in-demand entertainer, standing on a stage before throngs of … Continue reading

HIDING EVIDENCE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE


WHY do victims find it necessary to cover up or make allowances for the actions of their abusers—excuses for treatment they do not deserve?   A victim rarely speaks out immediately upon their first incident of domestic/intimate partner violence. That is probably because it innocuously worked its way to such a level, with intimidating words, … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – APPLY WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED


When it comes to domestic/intimate partner violence, spouse abuse or rape crisis intervention, there seem to be enough existing articles and theses written to paper the Grand Canyon. The information available is limitless. Not every piece substantiates others. As if that were not enough to bring confusion to us, the numbers are constantly changing. When … Continue reading

Domestic Violence—Just Pray Through?


  Faith is a powerful thing. It can resurrect the most dead of relationships. It can resurrect trust that has been totally annihilated. We pray in faith, believing, or else why would we pray at all? I would never intend to minimize the power of prayer or the importance of a spiritual way of life. … Continue reading

SPOUSE ABUSE—”BUT I SAID I WAS SORRY!”


  During a recent conversation about dealing with certain aspects of domestic violence, I was asked, “What do you do when the abuser says, ‘But, I told her I was sorry. She has to forgive me, it’s in the Bible’?” There was the whole concept of apology versus restitution, i.e. restoration or reinstatement. Words. They … Continue reading

Victims of Domestic Violence – Do You Have a Safety Code?


  Victims of domestic violence are constantly bombarded with the question, “How do I stay safe?” Domestic violence is a prison that holds its victims behind what seem inescapable bars. Every which way a victim turns they hear, “Why don’t you just leave?” or “Well, he has been so good for over a month,” or … Continue reading

DO I DARE CONFRONT MY ABUSER?


  A victim thinks, “Here I am, caught in the snare of domestic violence, wondering how I can possibly put an end to all this horror. Do I dare confront my abuser?” There are three definitive answers, and they are “Yes,” “No,” and “Not right now.” But put yourself in the place of the victim. … Continue reading

ABUSED? A CHANGE IS GONNA COME.


A message of hope. A message of faith. A message of change. Feeling weary from the words of abuse? I’ve got’cha. Beginning to believe them? Got ya there, too! Walking on eggshells because you have no idea what to expect today, or even in one hour? Been there, as well. Did your past hold sexual … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE―The Never Ending Lessons


What a life this has been, so far! It has been full of “what if,” “if only,” “I should’ve…could’ve,” and “If I could just go back…” But, we can’t. The past is passed, the future may never get here, and all we truly have is the gift of today. That’s why they call it the … Continue reading

CAUGHT IN A VICTIM MENTALITY?


Moving from actually being the victim to the position of survivor is not an easy journey, nor is it a quick one. The question has been raised: At what point do you stop being a victim and start becoming a survivor? More importantly, at what point are we capable of releasing the past and its … Continue reading

DOES GOD WANT ME TO STAY IN AN ABUSIVE MARRIAGE?


  This question has long been a maelstrom for victims of domestic violence who are determined to seek and remain in God’s will for their lives, yet wander around to find an acceptable way out of their terror-filled relationship. Unfortunately, the related confusion has cost many their lives before they could find an answer. Last … Continue reading

Pet Abuse: Red Flag for Domestic Violence?


This will be a short post, folks. I want to bring this to the attention of the public, to the forefront. Advocates can confirm with statistics that if an abuser kills, does bodily harm, or even threatens to do so to a family pet, it is likely you are in line to become a victim of … Continue reading

DON’T ASK, DON’T TELL – MORE THAN A GAY ISSUE


“Don’t ask, don’t tell…” It’s been in the news a lot lately concerning the controversy of gays in the military. While I do not intend to minimalize that issue, I do want to bring a separate issue to the forefront…One of, if not the foremost, enemies of abuse, molestation or domestic violence is silence! So when it comes to stopping the unacceptable levels of children being molested and/or abused, or victims being physically violated, or killed, DO ASK! And victims? Be sure you are safe, but DO TELL. Continue reading

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