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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—Developing a Safety Plan 101


Simplification is usually the best way to go. So, you are not contemplating leaving just yet, but you are consistently in fear, being verbally abused and beginning to think this is not the way you want the rest of your life to go. You have options and alternatives. For those who read this blog regularly, … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: HOW DO I AVOID AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?


BECOME THE KIND OF PERSON YOU WANT TO ATTRACT! I used to repeat this phrase over and over again to the group I led as a Director of Singles Ministry—Be the kind of person you want to attract. You will attract the kind of person you ARE, not the kind of person you desire. I … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—How Did I Get Into Another Abusive Relationship?—Part 2


After another year or two of total detachment and singlehood, I decided to try again, through the internet sites. At least my radar had finally been delivered, installed and was operative, maybe not always working at its best, but better with each new encounter. I met some real loonies, once nearly being raped, once being … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND AN ATYPICAL VIEW OF THE ACORN


It all started with the writing of “The Lesson of the Oak Tree,” a tribute to one tree in one yard in my past. When the oak and I first met, I was a young mother and it was barely bigger than a sapling. I always considered it just another tree in a yard, until … Continue reading

LIVING NEXT DOOR TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?


The Florida Attorney General’s Statewide Domestic Violence Fatality Review Team, in their report issued January 2011 found that “in 37% of domestic violence fatalities, family members, friends, co-workers and others were aware domestic violence was occurring.” In simpler terms, for every 3 women, men or children who die as the result of domestic violence, one … Continue reading

Parents Argue, Child Cuts—A Lesson in Self-Mutilation?


What does a child cutting have to do with domestic violence? This dilemma was recently posed to me. “I need to ask you about something. I have a friend at school that is cutting because her parents fight all the time. What should I do? “  Now, let me set the scene a bit clearer. … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – SEE IT FOR YOURSELF


WARNING – THIS VIDEO IS NOT ACCEPTABLE FOR YOUNG VIEWERS AND MAY BE UPSETTING TO ADULTS. I’m not going to take up a lot of space here for this one. I hope that instead of spending 5 minutes reading a post, you will spend it watching this video. Diane Sawyer interviews a victim, Susan Still, … Continue reading

VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: IT’S YOUR LIFE – IT’S YOUR CHOICE


At some time or another every victim of spouse abuse or domestic/intimate partner violence will be asked, “Why don’t you just leave?” We have a list as long as our arm as to why we stay, no matter how deeply we desire to get out of the situation. WE know why we choose to stay, … Continue reading

YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED – Taking Action Against Domestic Violence


Have you read more than one post on my blog? Do you visit often, or is this your first time here? Please let me extend a special invitation to you. On October 14, 2011, beginning at 8:00 p.m., Eastern Time, ABC Action News will air their annual primetime Emmy award winning special, TAKING ACTION AGAINST … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND THE WORKPLACE


When we are busy at the office trying to meet deadlines, getting projects completed, answering phones that are ringing off the hook, domestic violence is probably one of the last things to cross our mind—unless we are a present victim. How many of our coworkers are being buffeted by spousal or intimate partner abuse or … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—WHEN BOTH PARTIES ARE ABUSERS


Have you ever known of a married couple who “just couldn’t get along?” They snipped and snapped, even in public, with no respect or regard for the other? It almost seemed as if they were egging the other on to take the first swing. Now, that is most certainly dysfunctional, but it is what I … Continue reading

WHAT BRINGS ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?


For far too long we have considered domestic violence as an anger management issue. Someone loses their temper and flies off the handle. That is only the tip of the iceberg. The driving force behind domestic/intimate partner violence is the fear of losing power and/or control over the victim. It is rare that domestic violence … Continue reading

OCTOBER─NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH


This is a very busy time of year for any and all of those working against domestic violence, or to bring more awareness to the public regarding this wicked thing. How did it start? Visit the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) website to learn the story behind it.  WHY do we continue to acknowledge … Continue reading

VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—WHY WAS BEA DICKEY MURDERED?


This question came up on my blog recently. Unfortunately, there are times and murders when we just can’t seem to come up with an acceptable answer or explanation. Bea Dickey’s murder, at the time of this writing, did not fit the norm. Most victims who die at the hands of domestic violence are either shot … Continue reading

IS VERBAL ABUSE A FORM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?


As surely as a trip starts with the first mile, or an omelet begins with breaking one egg, domestic violence starts with one word or sentence. The first occasion may consist of being told, “Shut up!” Perhaps it will soon be followed with, “Nobody wants to hear what you have to say.” The confrontations have … Continue reading

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – She had it Coming to Her


So, you don’t believe that mindset still exists, that abusers don’t still use the line, “I wouldn’t have hit her, but she had it coming.”? I recently watched a rerun of a Dr. Phil episode wherein he was interviewing a couple who were separated and dealing with purported domestic violence. The wife related she had … Continue reading

Be Aware When an Abusive Partner Apologizes


Right up front, let’s establish that I have a long-running reputation as “Merry Sunshine” with a pair of rose-colored glasses permanently affixed to my face. So, if you read this article and feel I whizzed in your corn flakes, please bear in mind it’s a lot like broccoli. You may not like it, but it … Continue reading

Society’s View on Victims of Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence


How far have we come? I recently read an article stating a television personality “got what she deserved” when she was gang-raped. Another tweeted ridiculous comments, begrudgingly eventually apologizing – sort of. Can we say “Neanderthal?” First, it should be brought to that commentator’s attention rape is not a crime driven by lust or horniness. … Continue reading

Dealing with the Guilt of Leaving an Abusive Relationship


GUILT—What a powerful weapon when used against a victim of spouse abuse or domestic violence. It can be wielded in so many different directions. The victim must deal with the guilt of breaking up a marriage or intimate relationship, quite possibly separating a family. Children will lose time with their father. Their lifestyle will most … Continue reading

Emotional Abuse and Your Faith


As a woman of faith, and seeing so many search engine terms coming up on my blog looking for answers as to how faith and abuse possibly fit together, I simply must make some meager attempt to address this point. I was raised in the 60s, and through that time society taught the religious tenets … Continue reading

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